Texas New Abortion Law – We have Stepped to a New Low

We can debate all day what causes babies to be born and different birth control methods. That will not solve the problem but only perpetuates the problem.

The new abortion law in Texas will increase YOUR tax dollars as it forces women to have children they cannot afford to raise.

We would like to think that people know where babies come from and men and women alike would be more careful BUT the reality is they are not and women get pregnant. We are human and fallible.

I would like to add that men get pregnant as well because they have a major part in these pregnancies though they don’t give birth.

Birth control methods other than abstinence are not 100% effective and many people taking birth control end up pregnant.

I know women who are doing heroin and meth and all kinds of other drugs and end up pregnant having no business birthing a child unless they can come clean and hope that that child won’t be developmentally delayed or worse. Unless they have the baby at home, most likely CPS will come to the hospital and take the baby and they won’t even be able to take the baby home and now the baby ends up God knows where because our foster system Is less than adequate. Or better yet, grandparents will be raising grandchildren in their retirement years. That’s already a big problem. Innocent children deserve better.

Men have told me that “she told me she was on birth control“. What I have to say to that is take it with a grain of salt and use your own protection because men and women manipulate and lie to one another every day. Reality check!

We have now created circumstances where children will be born who may not be wanted, susceptible to abuse, possibly developmentally delayed or worse if the mother was using drugs and these individuals will turn into adults who are dysfunctional and we have enough of that running around already.

Our Texas constitution explicitly states that crime victims will be treated fair and with dignity. A woman who has been raped is not being treated fair nor with dignity if she is forced to have a child as a result of that heinous crime.

Wealthy women and men will have the financial means to go and get an abortion no doubt about it.

Low income women with children under the age of 18 can get on Medicaid and can do so when they become pregnant.

Unless they completely do away with the welfare system and the Medicaid system, which I highly doubt they will, tax dollars will have to be increased and they will.

Not to mention, the new law wants to punish ANY citizen for even using the word abortion when talking with an individual. That is ludicrous.

When it comes to the constitution, apparently ‘We The People’ does not include women.

We have stepped to a new low in Texas.

I am not surprised.

~mh

Monday Motivation – Reach out. Don’t Give Up.

Today is a new day.

If today is one of those days where you’re saying to yourself “I hate my life” or “I don’t want to be here“, please know that whatever you’re going through will eventually resolve itself and that there are better days ahead. Sometimes things have to get worse before they get better.

Sometimes we need a good nights sleep so we can think more clearly.

As independent as we all want to be, we only know what we know and there’s a vast world of knowledge out there that we don’t know. It is up to each and everyone of us to seek that knowledge. It is not going to fall from the sky. It is not even going to jump out of a Google search unless we know what we’re searching for.

Each one of us thinks a certain way based on what we know and when we get into a tight corner if the only thing we rely on is our own thinking we could end up staying in that corner for quite some time potentially never leaving.

Lessen the time of being stuck by taking a few deep breaths and, as hard as it is, reach out to a friend, coworker, spouse, adult child, hotline, primary care physician, therapist, minister/pastor, neighbor, and perhaps even a stranger.

I meet quite a few people who say they have no family or support. That’s when we reach out to a stranger who then can become our friend and our support.

Search for a group with similar likes. Perhaps it’s a music group, singing/karaoke group, book club, photography, guitar or a dance group. The list is endless. Create your own group and invite people in.

Seek safety in an emergency room if need be. Ask to speak to a social worker who can possibly listen and offer guidance.

It costs nothing to reach out and ask someone to lend an ear. Their reaction and response to you is NOT a reflection on you. Maybe they say they don’t have time or maybe they don’t even answer the phone or answer your text message. Do we stop there? No we keep searching and reaching out because someone WILL take the time and will listen.

I’m a stranger to everyone reading this blog but I assure you I have the time to listen to whatever it is that has steered you in a tight corner. I don’t have to know anything about you in order to care about you. That’s how I roll!

Let today be the day that you reach out to someone because one more minute stuck in a tight corner is one minute you could be closer to a better day and a better life and that’s what we’re all really striving for, isn’t it?

I care. Let’s talk.

-mh 💕😊

Perseverance – True ‘therapy’!!

Video: Lonnie Bedwell Doesn’t Let Being Blind Prevent His Pursuit of Adventure

https://www.teamriverrunner.org/meet-lonnie-bedwell/

YES YOU CAN!!! 💕😊

Monday Motivation – Start Today What You Did Not Do Yesterday.

I have been saying for too long I was going to get back to walking and working out.

Today was the day!

I got on a treadmill with IFIT and was guided on an awesome walk with a warm up, periodic inclines and a cool down. I need the incline for the cardio workout. I walked 1.29 miles for 35 minutes at a good pace to start. I used to walk 3 miles per day and I will get there again.

I am not trying to lose weight. I want to stay healthy and I know taking care of the body is at the same time taking care of the mind.

Health anxiety is real and I am going to keep it in check and not allow it to control me. It does not occur often but even once is too much and can be a monster! I fully believe exercise will help.

What have you been telling yourself you want to do but have not made the time?

Make the time NOW!

-mh💕

Monday Motivation – Love Yourself-Accept Yourself-Forgive Yourself

Throughout my journey I have found that the majority of people do not love themselves. It’s a question people don’t ask themselves but when asked it’s an easy “no” with their head hung low.

This is where the answer to many of life‘s struggles could be found.

If we do not love ourselves, the lens through which we view our life and the world is murky. We don’t make good decisions. We engage in negative self talk. We do not live up to our potential.

In a nutshell, we are our own worst enemy.

Searching for the reason ‘why’ we do not love ourselves is not as important as beginning to love ourselves – TODAY. Start anew!

We engage in activities where we are able to list hundreds of ways we love someone else. We need to do that for ourselves.

Look in the mirror and ask yourself “do I love myself“? If the answer is yes, physically write down a list of things you do that confirm this love. If the answer is no, create a ‘to be’ list that will help you begin to love yourself and commit to it daily. No one has to even know you are working on this except yourself. 😉

More action – less talking is an order! 😊

Love Yourself, Accept Yourself, Forgive Yourself

Every Day is a New Day!

-mh💕

Monday Motivation – Relationships – Love and Respect yourself FIRST.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Having boundaries is an act of respect for yourself. It shows you and the person you’re in communication with that you value yourself first and foremost.”

Ending the Cycle of Breaking Up and Getting Back Together

Happiness is not found being with another person but is found within our soul as we find our purpose in life and realize at the end of the day we are our own best friend and the only person we can truly rely on is ourself.

All relationships, personal or business, we become involved in will be much more fulfilling when this occurs. Until then, relationships are just filling voids.

~mh 💕😊

Worry – Destructive path to NOWHERE

It is possible things could turn out better than expected.

We tend to think we have a crystal ball and can know what will happen in our future. Or do we?

Intolerance of Uncertainty will certainly destroy and leads to unnecessary worry. I say be prepared for anything but don’t worry about that which we have no control.

I had a follow up diagnostic mammogram yesterday and while they could rule out malignancy on the right they could not spare the same for the left. Now, I promise this will not turn political! 😁

This is not one of those exams one is looking forward to. Are there any? 🤔 Once a year is doable but two in the same month is cruel and unusual punishment. I know it could be worse.

The lady was highly compassionate and did her best as she took image after image trying to get what she hoped would win her ‘technician of the year’. There must be an art to breast imaging. Is it the breast? The technician? The persons body shape? The machine? There is no ‘awesome’ position to place the breast for that ‘magical photo’. Women need to ban together and create an imaging device that is able to do what the current ones cannot. They say, “hold your breath” while they ‘snap’ the ‘shutter’ and one can do nothing else BUT hold their breath while a vice grip clenches down. “There has to be a better way”, I said.

She took the images to the radiologist and came back stating he asked for a redo on some. She tried again and then asked for reinforcement from her peers to assist. I told them, “a few more and then the doc will have to take his best guess”. I said it in jest but THIS hurt. 😩

They were able to get the ‘poses’ they wanted and she told me to wait in the room outside for the doctor to talk to me. I sat in a pink robe among 3 other women in similar attire. We were all of various ages. I kept telling myself, “I have known so many friends who had breast cancer. Some recovered and some not”. Could this be in my journey as well? I certainly did not think I was immune to cancer. No one is. There have been some cancer but no breast cancer in my family.

A young male doctor opens the door and calls my name, “Ms. Hatter?” I followed him into a tiny room with two chairs, small desk and a computer screen. To be honest, so many thoughts were flowing in my brain I could not recite details of that room ever again and I have somewhat of a photographic memory. Not today.

He said, briefly, “we need to do a biopsy on the left side”. He said the right was clear and of no concern. He said, “the calcification could be due to aging or cancer” and we needed to find out. I am not sure I was listening after that. I know I had questions. I always do. Not today.

I scheduled the biopsy and headed to the elevator. Retrieved my car from the valet and headed home. I was feeling pretty calm telling myself everything is going to be okay. I got this!

I read over the test results as they are accessible through MyChart. I work in the medical field so I understand most medical terminology and what I don’t know I will inquire. On the result it said “suspect malignancy”. I lost it. Crying is an understatement.

Although I believe the biopsy will be negative, it would not surprise me in the least if cancer were to pop up. So much stress since I was hit by that dastardly drunk driver last September not to mention the stress and anxiety of Covid throughout 2020. If it’s not one thing, it is another.

I quickly gathered myself and reached out to a few close friends who brought me back to calm.

It was then I decided not to worry until hearing the results next Tuesday. Perhaps there is nothing to worry about. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I cannot spend 5 days worrying about something I have no control over. Where will that get me? Nowhere. We have more control over what and how we think than we realize but it takes effort and awareness.

I go back to work today from being off 4 days. I will focus on listening to music and house hunting. Music heals and I am in the market to buy a house.

Worrying is going to be off limits!!

If there is a challenge you are facing, ask yourself, “what, if anything, do I have control of in this situation”? I bet you will be surprised to find out…. it is most likely very little if any at all.

Change the way you think! It is doable and a MUST!

Every day is a NEW day!

~mh 💕😊

Monday Motivation – Connection

So many people are walking around who have lost someone to suicide or other tragic means and one would never know it unless a conversation was created.

Whenever I meet someone and listen to their journey I am no longer surprised at what I hear.

There is so much suffering in the world and people do it in silence.

We need a culture shift to become more connected because everyone is experiencing emotional pain in one way or another.

It’s not about BEING connected. It’s about FEELING connected.

If you are not feeling connected, please reach out and talk with someone and let them know or send me a message and I will listen.

You are not alone.

~mh 💕😊